How to Say Please in French: Complete Everyday Travel and Etiquette Handbook
Travelers frequently report feeling ignored or receiving cool treatment in Parisian restaurants, but the root cause is almost always an etiquette breakdown. Popular media frequently caricatures French dining culture, as highlighted by debates in *The Wall Street Journal* and *Slate* regarding traveler friction across Europe. In reality, dining in France is governed by unspoken contractual courtesies.
Never snap your fingers, wave your arms, or shout garçon. That term fell out of polite use decades ago; using it today is patronizing. To catch your server's attention, make steady eye contact, raise your hand slightly to chin level, and offer a soft, direct "S'il vous plaît, monsieur" or "S'il vous plaît, madame."
When ordering food, avoid dropping raw nouns at the table. Do not say, "Une carafe d'eau." Instead, use a conditional structure combined with courtesy phrases: "Je voudrais une carafe d'eau, s'il vous plaît" (I would like a jug of tap water, please). When asking for the check at the end of the meal, simply say: "L'addition, s'il vous plaît." Conclude every completed step with merci beaucoup.